If you are reading this, I assume you have something you are worrying about? It might be a problem you have been grappling with alone, or something that is causing upset between you and another. Maybe you feel angry, trapped, undervalued, insecure or distrustful of a partner - or undecided about decisions that you feel need making?
Or, maybe you have noticed that you are having the same, repetitive, unresolved, angry arguments that leave you both feeling angry and isolated? Maybe your sexual relationship has become dull and boring and you are not sure how to improve things, or you’ve had an affair and don’t know whether to leave your partner or tell them? Maybe you are involved in risky sexual behaviours that you feel trapped by and don’t know how to manage them?
These thoughts often feel overwhelming, particularly if you have been thinking and mulling them over for some time. It may also feel frightening to consider making changes, so you go through the same options over and over again without feeling as if you are making any progress. Part of what might be worrying you is whether your problem/s are ‘big enough’ or ‘serious enough’ to get professional help, or whether solving it is something you should be able to manage on your own?
If any of this feels familiar, ask yourself this question: do you think your worrying is making any difference or helping you solve your problem? If you are not sure or if you feel stuck, maybe it’s worth considering sharing your concerns with me?
Outdoor photography by Angus Ford-Robertson